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Have you ever had that feeling where you felt like you had so much to do that you shouldn’t even sleep? Or you have so much to do that when you try to go to sleep you can’t because all you’re doing is laying in bed thinking about how much you need to do? If you are anything like me, I’m sure you have. Over the past couple weeks I had been feeling this way and coincidentally enough I have a friend who has been feeling the same way. After talking through our issues for a a few days, I came to a few realizations and a formula that has already helped me and hopefully can help you as well!
Before I dive head first into the pool and begin swimming through the waters of obligations, to do lists, goals, etc, I’d like to first talk about priorities and why it’s important to prioritize. Prioritizing achieves several things for us. It forces us to first analyze our goals and what goes into achieving these goals. It forces us to get detailed and to “cut away” the fat. In other words, eliminating those activities that are time wasters while doing only the things that bring us the biggest return for our time. By streamlining things, what I’ve found is that I can forget about things that would otherwise cause me to feel overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed is a stressful feeling. Stress stifles creativity. And without creativity I find it very difficult to efficiently come up with and write blogs like this one.
Both myself and my friend who I had this conversation with agreed that as we have gotten older it has become more and more difficult to eliminate the feeling of being overwhelmed. Both of us work, have started businesses, do our damndest to workout 3-5x per week, eat well, and maintain our relationships. With so much to do it and not enough time to do it, it becomes more and more important to actually do the things in our Health/Wellness and Career/Financial pillars that have the greatest impact and in our Relationships(social) pillar that are most enjoyable in our lives.
Prioritizing is a very personal thing. We all have different goals. We all enjoy doing different things. However, this is the formula I have developed to help me better utilize my time. The formula assumes that you already have goals in mind, have to do lists a mile long, and need an efficient way to organize and ultimately execute your plans. It then takes something big(your goals) and narrows them down into smaller action steps and finally allows you to take a realistic look at what you have time, energy, and resources to actually accomplish.
I like to use a spread sheet to map this all out. You will use separate sheets for your goals list, goals list by each pillar in order, then a final sheet with your two biggest priority goals with steps for how to achieve them.
Step 1: Write out every single goal you can possibly think of. Use the pillars to help you:
Pillar 1: Health/Wellness,
Pillar 2: Career/Financial
Pillar 3: Relationships/Social
Step 2: Separate them into each pillar category.
Step 3: Prioritize them from most important to least important in each pillar category. This is an important step because if you are let's say pillar 2 heavy in your time and energy focus, this will force you to focus in on your other pillars.
Step 3: List out the activities/resources(energy, time, money) needed to reach these goals.
Step 4: Visualize doing these activities day to day. Get REALISTIC here. Don’t take on too much! This is my biggest challenge as I typically want to do 8 things at once. Remember, it’s better to do one thing really well then 8 things half-assed!
Step 5: Focus only on your top 1-3 goals and activities that are most important in each pillar and temporarily forget about the rest. It does not mean you will never come back to those goals. It just means that you are putting them on the back burner and will be coming back to them down the road.
Step 6: Make a separate sheet that lists your two biggest goals and the steps you will need to take to complete them.
Step 7: Map out how you will allocate your time day to day leaving social time and time for your regular maintenance activities (haircuts, dentist, etc.).
Step 8: DO THE FU@#ING WORK!
Often times, I like to relate things back to attraction. This process of prioritizing helps a man be more attractive for several reasons. For starters, it requires a man actually establish goals. Ask any woman and she will tell you that a man with ambition is attractive, especially in regards to having long term potential (Short Term Game vs Long Term Goal). Also, prioritizing helps to strip away unimportant things and eliminate stress thus leaving a man calmer and in more control of himself. Guess what, that’s attractive. And finally, if you know your goals, know what it takes to reach them, AND you know realistically when you are spending time reaching them and when you have time for women, you have just firmed up your Personal Boundary and improved your Strength of Frame. And you guessed it, that’s attractive!