Man on left, "What do you think? Is it strong enough?"
Man on right, "I don't know...Your wife's kind of a bitch...Maybe we should use concrete instead of wood"
I first saw this term used by Mystery in his “Mystery Method.” I like the term a lot and elaborated on it to give it my own flavor. It follows the same template as Nina Brown’s Personal Boundary Types. You can see my blog on Personal Boundary.
How firm or weak your personal boundary is when tested by women.
Wussy/AFC(Average Frustrated Chump)/Yes Man- A man with a very weak personal boundary with women. Will bend over backwards for a woman and never say No to any wish or desire that she asks for. This is an individual who constantly gets used by women and as a result earns no respect and quickly becomes unattractive as a sexual partner. This is a man who does not get with women other men would call “hot.” He also has a hard time in general attracting women.
Developmental Man: A man who falls somewhere within the spectrum of being a Yes Man and a True Man. This is the category where most men exist. Still experiencing life and experimenting to see what he likes and dislikes. When tested by a woman he knows that the word No exists but he does not use it as often as he should…And he is usually aware of this fact but his emotional ability to say No has not yet caught up with his intellectual knowledge. This man may land a “hot” woman once in awhile but cannot keep her interested and if she does stick around, she has the upper hand and typically manipulates him for her own gain.
Unavailable Man: A man who at some point was emotionally scarred by a woman or women and has firmed up his frame so much that he never allows a woman to enter his boundary. He is convinced that women are nothing but trouble and will only cause hurt and disappointment. This type of a man is rare due to man’s innate high desire for sex. He is unavailable and therefore rarely if ever gets with women.
A True Man- A man with a firm yet flexible personal boundary. This man knows that a woman is a compliment to his life and not his end result. He does not waver from his life’s goals and purpose because of a woman. When he does not like what a woman is asking of him, he quickly and efficiently says No and feels no need to even have to explain himself. He is not a jerk or arrogant about it, he is simply firm and unwavering. This is an individual with strong character who naturally attracts women. These men are always in high demand. This man is unaffected by the ebbs and flows of the moods of a woman he is with.
For more info on Strength of Frame and other Pick Up Aritstry concepts, Mystery is a true OG: